Then please follow it in your actual lives. Thanks a bunch!
I am always particularly annoyed by the “you can’t be Catholic and pro-choice” argument. Catholicism is a complex, multi-facited, centuries old institution and being pro-choice does not kick you out of the club. To be Catholic you don’t need to blindly follow the Vatican, you can (and in many cases should) question and disagree. The leadership of The Church has a lot of problems, but modern Catholics can work to make it more inclusive and in touch. We don’t have to give up the traditions we love or the actions that bring us closer to God because we believe in the autonomy of people who can get pregnant. If you haven’t already, check out For The Catholic Girls. It’s an excellent space for Catholic pro-choice people.
• Rape is illegal: To this day, women, men, and children suffer the fate of this crime.
• Murder is illegal: I don’t know about you, but I hear about people being murdered in the news just about every day.
• Drugs are illegal: I think we all know of a few people that ignore this law. (Hey, they’re our bodies! Right?)
• Child abuse is illegal: Yes, this is also something that never ceased to exist after a law was passed that banned it.
I could continue but, instead, I will conclude the point I am trying to make with a hypothetical question:
Why bother making these things illegal if they are going to happen anyway?
It’s not simply “people will do it anyway.” It’s that when someone is pregnant and doesn’t want to be, they will find a way to terminate that pregnancy. Before abortion was legal in the US, thousands of people died from self induced or back alley abortions. Abortion being legal saves the lives of pregnant people who would die in the process of illegal abortion. I suggest you read this great article written by Eleanor Cooney recounting her pre Roe v. Wade search a for an abortion provider. She also talks about ER doctors experience treating and losing patients coming in with infections and perforated uteruses.
In the same book, a man who assisted in autopsies in a big urban hospital, starting in the mid-1950s, describes the many deaths from botched abortions that he saw. “The deaths stopped overnight in 1973.” He never saw another in the 18 years before he retired. “That,” he says, “ought to tell people something about keeping abortion legal.”
I went in to switch up my birth control method (from pill to ring) and renew my insurance card with them. Had a great conversation with the nurse about the ring and why it will work well for me, got some EC just in case, and 4 months worth of birth control. Not even the 40 Days for Life protesters could bring me down from such a great visit. I’ve never had anything but positive experiences with PP!
TW: Molestation, Rape, Holocaust Comparison
Pro-Choice Rhetoric: I’ve know several women who had abortions and they didn’t regret it at all.
Answer: Adolf Eichmann went to his execution saying he did not regret his participation in the Nazi holocaust. That does not make what he did defensible. Lack of regret relates to the conscience of the person acting, not to the rightness of the act. If some pervert sexually assaults his neighbor’s five-year-old daughter, whether he regrets it or not is irrelevant. Now if we really want to see what role regret plays in the abortion issue, let’s survey women who dealt with unplanned pregnancies in their past. Let’s ask those who aborted if they now wish that they had given birth, and ask those who gave birth if they now wish they had aborted. What we will find is that for every woman who says she regrets giving life to her child, thousands will say they regret killing theirs. That explains why there are now literally thousands of support groups across America to help women overcome the emotional train wreck of abortion, but no one has found it necessary to start even one support group to help women deal with the emotional toll of letting their children live.
The fact is, after more than 30 years of legal abortion, if there is one thing we know for certain, it is that regrets about an abortion decision are only experienced by women who have them- not by those who don’t.
Regret is always a possible outcome of making any choice, not just related to abortion. If we tried to ban everything that people chose and later regretted, there would be very few legal things in this world.
Don’t compare abortion to the Holocaust and child molestation. That is disgusting and harmful and survivors of both have spoken out, asking that those comparisons stop.
Also, the American Psychological Association did a study that shows that abortion does not cause any mental health issues. Not to mention that in a recent study it was shown that people tended to regret an abortion when they felt pressured into it (which is absolutely not something that pro-choice people are for, hence the CHOICE) or when they feel like they don’t have sufficient support afterwards from the people in their lives. I’m sure that pro-life rhetoric comparing them to Nazi’s and child rapists really helps.
Support groups for after abortion are not a bad thing, but most of them are vehemently anti-abortion and think that making it illegal is the answer to everything. Also, have you not heard of Post Partum Depression? There are plenty of support groups for PPD, how to deal with the emotional struggle after birth, and how to move forward.
I’m not denying that some people have regretted their abortion, that would be foolish of me. But that’s not indicative of abortion being bad. I’ve talked to a couple women who regretted their abortion, but made the point to say that it was wrong for them, not everybody. They didn’t want it to be banned, they didn’t think it was inherently immoral. It was their own experience, but they’d never think of forcing people to comply to what they wish they had done. We’re humans, we sometimes make decisions that are wrong for us or cave in to people making choices on our behalf. But that doesn’t mean those decisions are wrong for everyone.